United States – October 27, 2026 -- Two out of three teens are not drinking alcohol, according to studies cited by Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), and parents can use that fact to counter the belief that "everyone's doing it." MADD's Power of Parents program offers conversation starters and practical tools for talking with teens about alcohol, drugs and safety.
Teens overestimate how much their peers drink
Perceived norms drive behavior, and many teens assume their peers drink more than they do. MADD suggests asking curious questions, such as what teens actually do on a typical weekend and whether everyone is really drinking. Comparing those assumptions with the statistics helps parent and teen see the real picture.
A rehearsed one-liner gives teens a way out
Teens can refuse actively with a plain "No, I don't do drugs." They can also refuse passively, using a line like "I've got an early game tomorrow," suggesting a movie instead, or changing the subject. A rehearsed line paired with an exit plan helps reset the moment.
Problem-solving practice builds calm confidence
Specific praise, realistic goals, responsibilities and real choices build self-esteem. MADD adds a five-step routine: notice a problem, list options, weigh pros and cons, decide, and follow through. Parents can role-play a hypothetical invitation to practice it.
Banning a worrying friend often backfires
Instead, include that friend in family activities so your values are visible. Help your teen widen their circle through clubs or sports, and reduce time in unsupervised group settings. Know the who, what and where of plans, and keep an open offer to pick your teen up with no drama.
Alcohol impairs teens from the first drink
Underage drinking can bring legal, academic, athletic and financial fallout. Alcohol impairs coordination and judgment from the first drink, and teens are more susceptible to rapid impairment. Early drinking also correlates with more serious problems later. MADD advises tying the stakes to goals your teen cares about.
Binge drinking multiplies the risks, including alcohol poisoning, blackouts and high-risk choices. Coffee, showers and food do not speed up sobriety; only time does, and nobody should drive or ride impaired.
Written family rules set clear limits
MADD recommends agreements covering no alcohol before 21, no drug use, no impaired driving, and never riding with someone who has used. Families should also set consequences for broken rules and a "call me anytime" policy. Pick a standard pickup spot near common hangouts, and practice a one-tap "come get me" text.
Before a big night, ask your teen how things might get risky, what they could say if they do, and why the safe option would help them reach their goals next week.